All over scripture, it both encourages and rebukes us about the way we use our tongue. Our tongues can be used for both bad and for God’s glory, and we have been called as believers to tame our tongue. Today, we are discussing the topic of gossip, and how we all know it’s wrong, yet we still find ourselves engaging in it. Well, scripture is passionate about this topic, so we want to know exactly what it says.
- Ephesians 4:29 says, “Let no unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building others up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.”
- Unwholesome talk=gossip, slander, deceit, or anything that isn’t to build others up.
- Gossip is when you say something about someone when they are not there that is not intended to build them up.
- The Hebrew word for “gossip” is translated and defined as “one who reveals secrets, one who goes about as a talebearer, or scandel-monger.”
- What Scripture says about our tongues/gossip:
- James 3: 1-12
- 1 Timothy 5:13
- Proverbs 18:7-8
- A great self reflection question: What do you leave people with when you have a conversation with them?
- What counts as gossip?
- Talking bad about celebrities or people you don’t know personally.
- “Venting” about our frustrations towards our parents or teachers.
- “Venting” in general. Even if that is to your husband or a safe-place.
- “Processing” as an excuse to talk about your feelings towards someone else.
- Sharing something with someone in order to get them on your side.
- Listening to someone else say something negative about something.
- “Bad mouthing” a brother in Christ who broke up with your friend in order to make her feel better in the moment.
- Proverbs 11:12 says, “Whoever belittles his neighbor lacks sense, but a man of understanding remains silent.”
- Repentance is to turn from our sin and go in the opposite direction.
- If we have gossiped about someone, we need to repent and seek reconciliation with that person.
- 1 Corinthians 13 also coaches us to not hold it against someone if they have gossiped against us.
- Slander: Saying intentionally mean things about someone.
- Gossip: Talking about something that is not yours to share.
- Taming the tongue: Being able to discern what is a wise choice and what is a sinful choice in words.
We hope that by looking at God’s Word, you were able to see where the topic of gossip is present in your own life. And that you would take steps to confess, repent, and seek reconciliation with those around you. We encourage you to talk about this with each other, ladies! Share where this is hard for you, and then be encouraged that there is hope in Jesus.
We love you!
-The OHT Team